Some time ago I read something that was quite shocking…In 2004, the National Sample Survey Office reported that 4.91 million people in India are living alone and are suffering from loneliness. More recently there was a survey conducted by Ipsos on predictions for global issues in 2020, 50 percent of Indians responded that they will feel lonely most of the time that year.
In short, half of the Indians feel lonely, and most of these include the generation of millennials. Loneliness doesn’t mean that you don’t have people in your life, it means that you’re not consistently sharing your feelings and thoughts with someone else. Why is that? The answer could be Fear. We are scared that if we reveal our true selves to others, they won’t really love us.
Feeling of Intimacy.
So, what’s the antonym of loneliness? Well, it is intimacy. Contrary to popular belief, intimacy doesn’t always mean a relationship with a romantic partner. Intimacy is a feeling of familiarity or emotional closeness, it could be with a friend, a family member, a coworker, partner, etc.
There could be numerous reasons why we don’t have intimate relationships. We live in a world that deters intimacy. We have many options to avoid a strong emotional connection with others — social media, work, binge-watching shows on OTT platforms, and so on. We get used to keeping our thoughts and feelings to ourselves or we just numb it by watching TV, posting shiny pictures on social media, drinking alcohol, binge-watching, and the like. And we start to feel a little disconnected from the people around us. This trend is especially dangerous in the face of adversity. Because when you hit rock bottom, you need the love and support of the people who are close to you.
My dear readers, I wish that instead of wasting time in increasing your friends and followers on social media or just measuring your life with coffee spoons, or the number of likes on your profile picture; you actually spend time to connect with people at a deeper emotional level. Next week, we shall talk about the various ways you can bond with others and form intimate and meaningful relationships. Till then stay safe, stay connected!
Intimacy is a totally different dimension. It is allowing the other to come into you, to see you as you see yourself.