Feeling of Intimacy
Brad Meltzer, the famous American author once opined, ”There’s nothing more intimate in life than simply being understood. And understanding someone else.” This intimate feeling could be experienced with a friend, a family member, a coworker, or a partner. This week we shall focus on the various ways you can bond with others and form intimate & meaningful relationships, especially with your partner.
The first criterion to develop a more meaningful bond is by being around people with whom you share a common interest. However, Matthew Kelly tells us that common interests are not enough to hold a relationship together, and you need a common unchanging purpose. This unchanging purpose will allow you to make choices that help you become the best versions of yourself amidst the fast pace of life. Every opportunity or crisis in your personal or professional life can be gauged against this common purpose.
Another great method to build intimacy is by clearly communicating your expectations to others. If you expect others to understand what you want, then you have to tell them. This also means you need to know yourself and what you really need. You simply can’t expect someone to understand how you feel about something unless you express your feelings to them.
There is nothing more passionate and ecstatic than the pursuit of your dream but there is nothing more gratifying than helping someone you love achieve their dreams. It could be a simple dream such as having lunch at a five-star hotel or going for a honeymoon to the Andamans, or a bigger dream such as assuming a leadership role in a reputed organization.
Most importantly, you must realize that to be able to truly reveal yourself to another person, you must constantly work to become the best version of yourself. This means focusing on your most legitimate needs, physically, intellectually, and spiritually. Take care of your body with physical exercise and the right nutrition. Intellectually stimulate yourself by reading books authored by great leaders of our times and expanding your vision for your life. Spiritually, immerse yourself in prayers or meditation and you will feel better about yourself and about life.
Life is about Love & Intimacy
My dear readers, I wish that you realize that life is about love and intimacy. Find your common unchanging purpose, communicate your desires and expectations, do not settle for less than the best version of yourself, and take care of your needs. Embrace these ideas and you shall experience the power of intimacy to transform your life.
Intimacy is not something that just happens between two people; it is a way of being alive. At every moment, we are choosing either to reveal ourselves or to protect ourselves, to value ourselves or to diminish ourselves, to tell the truth or to hide. To dive into life or to avoid it. Intimacy is making the choice to be connected to, rather than isolated from, our deepest truth at that moment.
— Geneen Roth