The Art of Trusting Yourself Again
A little girl once asked her grandmother, “How do birds know where to fly when the seasons change?”
Her grandmother smiled and replied, “Because they trust what they cannot see.”
Somewhere between childhood and adulthood, we lose that ability. We stop trusting the quiet voice within us and start trusting everyone else’s opinions instead.
We ask our friends what to do, scroll endlessly through social media for validation, read countless reviews before making the smallest purchase, and overthink decisions until we’re completely exhausted. Ironically, the more advice we collect, the more confused we become.
Why?
Because every opinion is filtered through someone else’s fears, experiences and beliefs. But your life isn’t meant to be lived through someone else’s lens.
I once met a client who couldn’t decide whether to accept a job offer. She had made pros-and-cons lists, consulted her family, and even asked colleagues for advice. Yet she still felt stuck. During our conversation, I asked her one simple question: “If nobody could judge your decision, what would you choose?”
Without hesitation, she answered.
The answer had always been there. It had simply been buried beneath the noise.
That’s what happens to many of us. Our intuition doesn’t disappear—it gets drowned out by self-doubt, fear of failure, and the pressure to make the “perfect” decision.
The good news? Trusting yourself is like strengthening a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it becomes. Start with the little things. Choose the restaurant without polling everyone. Wear the outfit you love instead of the one you think others expect. Notice how your body feels when something is right—it often whispers before your mind understands.
This is also why so many people are turning to spiritual practices today. Whether it’s meditation, journaling, or getting a Tarot reading, these aren’t about predicting your future or handing you answers. They create a quiet space where your own wisdom can finally be heard.
As author Ralph Waldo Emerson wisely said, “Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.”
My dear readers, the greatest relationship you’ll ever rebuild isn’t with another person—it’s with yourself. And once you learn to trust that inner voice again, you’ll realise it was never lost. It was simply waiting for you to listen. “Your intuition never stops speaking; we simply become too busy listening to everyone else.”
Written by Maanya Kohli, one of India’s most trusted Tarot readers and founder of Lady of Tarot.
